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Getting soaped!

Okay all!  You know I am on a no paraben and sulfate kick, well, after looking at numerous body washes and soaps, I was given some all natural, homemade soaps, and they are WONDERFUL!  They smell great, make my skin so soft, and they are absolutely homemade, without a bunch of items I can’t even pronounce. is where you can order the soaps.  One of my favorites is the Lavender Luxury, oh my word…fabulous!  I also located a soap called African Black Soap at my local health food store…amazing!  From what I have read, the African Black Soap is great for clearing up any type of skin conditions, like acne, etc.  I am sold on these soaps…no going back.

Well, as I continue on my quest to go healthier, I am now on my way to making sure my largest organ is getting some healthy treatment…did you know your skin absorbs 60% of any substance you put on it…so, my guess is we should make sure we are absorbing stuff that is healthy for you.  What do you think??

Oh, one last thing before I close for the day…nutmeg and cinnamon is naturally anti-aging, do I have your attention now???  It did not take much to get my attention!  Let’s face it, men look better as they age, like a fine wine…however, women, not so much.  I intend to fight looking older every single solitary step of the way!  So, I read about this concoction…put nutmeg and cinnamon (equal parts) in a coffee filter in your coffee machine, brew like coffee, what you will have in your coffee pot is what you will put on your face with a cotton ball.  I keep my anti-aging concoction in the fridge and every night, dip the ol’ cotton ball into it and apply to my face. Now, call me crazy but I believe it is working…my fine lines are getting smaller-yippee!!  So, give it a shot and let me know what you think. Now, if only there was a concoction to rub on your hips that made them smaller, hmmm, I need to do some more research! 🙂


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My son…call him royalty!

Well, the Prince of Cambridge has been born…this is exciting!  As I watched my usual morning show I was just as fascinated as so many others. Now, let me give you a different perspective, as I traveled to work with my “little man” riding along in his booster seat…it hits me…a royal baby may have been born in London, but royalty was born in to my family four years ago!  My “little man” chatted with me and directed me that he would like his juice opened, uh, how did it get phrased, oh yes, that’s right, “mommy open my juice… now!” As we arrived at work and we walked into the building he was doted over and hugged by my co-workers.  As I opened the door to my office, my “little man” had no problem taking his place, you guessed it…in my chair behind my desk! 

Tonight as he made a request for a McDonald’s Happy Meal, yes, I know I am writing about being healthy in my blog…I know, I know…I gave in during a moment of weakness…again I say to you…royalty was born in my family four years ago! My son made a request for honey mustard, and yes, you already know where this is going…no honey mustard.  So, as I am about a mile down the road, I am made very aware of the issue at hand…no honey mustard sauce, so I turn the car around and go back to make sure my prince is happy…of course!

As a parent it is so hard to maintain the balance of not giving too much, but I have to tell you.  When my angel smiles that smile and laughs that laugh and says that oh so sweet “Plllleeeeeaaaasseee mommy” I am done for.  I am merely a happy loyal subject to my precious prince. So, I just want all of you to know…a prince may have been born in London, but my prince was born four years ago!!!! 🙂

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The perfect balance…

As an educator and professional woman, sometimes it is difficult to balance work and family.  As much as I would like to claim that I am a “superwoman” that is simply not true.  Sometimes it is hard to walk away from work and come home, even though being home is where I truly want to be ( my husband would try to argue this point right now) 🙂 

Oh, my journey to be a better person…sometimes I feel like I fall short in the family department.  I had a great day at work and truly felt like the challenges I faced were handled so positively due to the many prayers I prayed that all would go smoothly. I believe it is time I pray for a balance with my family and work. I am determined that I am going to find the perfect balance!!!  🙂 This is one more area, the most important area, that I need to focus on in my personal journey, so the journey continues….

Oh, I wonder if other working females, or males for that matter, feel that striking the right balance is difficult?????? Ok, so another part of my journey is to find the balance, as stated above. 


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Health – Lemons

Health – Lemons.


The healthy part of my journey….going organic and natural

In my quest for self-improvement I am also working on getting healthier, and all that encompasses.  I have been doing a lot of healthy reading…magazines, research on the web, books, you name it I am definitely in healthy research mode…must be the educator in me.  I also know it has a lot to do with the birth of my son.  I want to be healthy for him!  I have got to stay active to keep up with my “little man”!  so, back to my healthy quest…

I attended a workshop on going organic…I could not believe my ears when the speaker told the audience that all breast cancer tumors have parabens in them…good grief!!!!  So, imagine my shock when I looked at some very famous baby lotions and found that they too had parabens in them.  Needless to say I was a little upset to think I had been lathering my precious son up with lotion daily and they all contained parabens. So, I guess you can say that I am making it a mission of mine to go paraben free!  Thankfully, it is getting easier to go paraben and sulfate free because more and more products are available. 

it may sound crazy but since I have been working on being healthier…supplements, natural skin care, natural hair conditioners, just to name a couple I truly feel better!  As a matter of fact, I am sitting with my all natural Moroccan clay mask-feels great, even though I look a little hilarious. My son must be getting used to seeing me wear masks because he looked at me and did not even bat an eye! 🙂 I just conditioned my hair with almond oil and peppermint oil-almond oil to condition and peppermint oil to stimulate the scalp.  I soak my hair with the mixture, then wrap my hair in a towel and leave it on for 30 minutes, then wash out.  My hair truly feels softer and looks better.  I would recommend giving it a try!  So, by the end of this evening I will have soft and silky hair, and fabulous looking skin, more toned with small pores…my goodness I sound like an infomercial! 🙂

More healthy tips to come and more stories as I continue this journey of getting healthier and becoming a new me…should be interesting!  If anyone out there has any fabulous healthy tips, whether eating or beauty please share!  This is a journey I can by no means make alone…lots of prayers, tips and ideas from other folks, and I am one day closer to a healthier, better me! 

Whew! I better get this mask off or I am going to be drawn a little too tight in the pores department…



Just thinking…

My son, who is 4, is able to maneuver an IPAD with ease.  When our family goes out to a restaurant we are fascinated by looks we get as people watch our son from across the restaurant.  They, of course, are watching him on the IPAD and can’t believe that a child his age can actually work such a device.  Especially when you will hear adults make comments like “I am not sure what to do with an IPAD”.  My son has been my greatest gift…he has opened my eyes to the world in such a different way.  He keeps things in perspective for me, and helps me to see the beauty and greatness in the world…he is always happy! That is a lesson we all can learn…be happy, see the beauty and greatness. 

Anyway, back to my point.  Children of today are different…they are not the same as when you or I were in school. Studies are out that their brain chemistry is even different from children years ago, even not that long ago. 

As an educator, this information is fascinating to me, because many times our expectations of children are those of expecting them to behave and handle situations in a manner in which we did. Even TV has changed, when I was growing up, we did not have reality shows.  The closest thing we had to reality was a game show!  Children are exposed to many different situations at much younger ages.  Now, am I saying it is right or wrong…NO, but I am saying it is going on, and as a mother I need to work within the reality of the day to make sure I understand the world that my son will grow up in.  I want to be the mother he needs me to be, and to do that I must continually take in the world of today, and realize that he is going to be exposed to, and even comfortable with things I am not necessarily comfortable with. 

I also know that my reaction and behavior to outside situations is what my son is watching, and drawing from as he comes across situations he is faced with. This is another aspect of my introspective journey that I must keep in mind…am I handling situations that I face with grace and positivity that will set the positive example for my son? That is a question I must keep in the forefront of my mind…daily!


Been Awhile…working on being a better human! Anyone else?

Gosh! it has been awhile…I can’t believe how long it has been since I posted my one and only post…good grief!  Well, originally I thought I would write about my 40th year; however, that came and went with a flash; however, blessings a plenty.  Since I have turned 40, I have decided to embark on some, shall we say construction of self.  A lot of reflecting on my life. I have faced situations, shall we say, that sounds more positive than challenges. 🙂 I am working on the positivity in my life, being a better wife, being the mother my son needs me to be, being a better friend, better boss, better co-worker, and overall better human.  Anyone else out there working on being better person?  I know there are given the size of the self-help section at the book store! 🙂

Well, I would love to connect with others that are working on themselves and what they have discovered.  For so long I have looked out at the world and pointed out what is wrong, my perception of course, and you know what I am beginning to find?????? The old cliché is correct…if you want to make a change start with yourself, or as the famous pop song goes…the man, or in this case, woman in the mirror.

It seems so many people are looking for “things ” to make them happy! Just look at all the famous people that have died from various substance abuse issues, and yet, those of us looking from the common perspective (lack of a better word, even though common does not fit), seem to think they must have it all…fame, money, anything at their disposal, then again, maybe that is the issue.  Lots of things at their disposal but not the right things, or right belief.  Yes, I am a Christian, and proud of it!  I was reared a Christian; however, I must say I feel that in my walk as a Christian I am like a toddler taking my first real steps to get know the Bible and all that encompasses. Lord knows I have strayed and returned many times.  This time, I know, that I can’t stray anymore.  I am happiest when I am walking close to God!

So, part, the main part, of by becoming a better human campaign is to continue to walk closer and closer to God.  I am going to make lots of mistakes along the way, but know that He is the only way…definitely, for me.

So, those of you out there working on being a better person, keep it up…if we change ourselves…we CAN change the world!!!!