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What is the right thing to do?

As I move through my journey to become a better person, which ultimately means become a better Christian, I must admit it can be a tough journey when faced with certain situations.  Case in point…I had a tough decision to make regarding hiring an individual…if I hired the individual I was going to put another supervisor in a bind by essential taking that person at the last moment.  They would have then had to hurry advertise and interview, with time being of the essence.  After much thought, yes, much thought, I decided against hiring the person…the reason?  I had to be able to sleep at night, and know that I could face that other supervisor knowing I did the right thing.  I even had a couple people say, “It happens all the time, you have to do what you have to do”. Well, I disagree.  Just because other people “do it all the time that way”, doesn’t make it right. 

I have to say, it would have been easier just to move forward and push down those feelings telling me “you are not doing the right thing”, but I did not.  I listened to those feelings and did the right thing. I also slept well that night!

Another situation I encountered the next day, I am shopping in a well-known store, and a lady was looking at some items on the shelf, and, yes, she had her cart blocking the entire aisle.  No one was getting by her!  I pulled up and waited for just a moment, knowing she had to have seen me out of the corner of her eye.  When I realized she either hadn’t noticed me or wasn’t going to notice me, I politely said, “may I get by you, please?” and the reason I am writing this is because, yes, you guessed it…she got an attitude. It was as if I had truly asked her to move the entire shelf of items so I could get by.  It was at that time, I really had to stop and think “what is the right thing to do?” I have a pretty quick tongue and I had a few statements to come back with, but I remembered…I wear a cross and I am a Christian. My handling of the situation was going to be a billboard of me as a person, and more importantly, of a person who wears a cross. So, I have to constantly ask myself, “What is the right thing to do?”  The answer is not always the easiest to answer…sometimes the right decisions are the hardest to make.

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Putting things in perspective…

Well, the other night around 11 PM my hubby and I were sitting on the couch talking…suddenly two extremely loud bangs took place which caused my hubby and I to move faster than most Olympic athletes!  My husband said “hand me the phone” and ran out on the porch.  As he was speaking to the 911 operator…an explosion and a huge blast of flames became visible, our house shook, and I mean shook!  My hair blew back with each explosion.  Well, it was around that time we realized that the Blue Rhino propane company was exploding!  What a night!  I spoke with my dad and they could hear the explosions where they live…approximately 25 miles away!!!!  They also could see the haze…seriously!  A little after midnight we were evacuated…so scary!  As I tried to figure out what I should take with us…we weren’t sure our home would be there in the morning…I began to put things into perspective!  I realized at that moment, as the police were banging on our door telling us to evacuate a home that may not be there in the morning, and that if I take much longer WE may not be there in the morning…the only thing that mattered was that my family evacuated and that we were safe!  Talk about putting things into perspective!  Well, we arrived at my parents home…all of us, my husband, my son and our pets. We were safe, and in the big scheme of things…that is what matters.  There were no fatalities during the many propane tank explosions…thank God!  That was a night that put things into perspective…seriously!

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